Relationships

Just today I saw Sahib Biwi and Gangster returns……..phew, the story teller and director has  really hit the nail right on the head….

In the  previous movie it was the biwi who was the philanderer and the one doing all wrong but then coming to look into the deeper psyche of the human need, it was all for the lack of the attention from the husband which the wife had been yearning for, this lead her to being an alcoholic, someone pining to satisfy her physical needs… phew….

Amazing movie, in the end the scorned wife eventually got the husband using all her
cleverness.

Same in the sequel, I am sure all those who would have seen it must be aware that in the end she managed to put the last nail in the coffin and lead her life in the world of politics, yet eyeing the hunk in the last scene.

The movie really got me thinking that it’s a very vicious cycle of understanding, communication and relationships. This was but a movie, I in my profession have had the opportunity to meet women who for the lack of understanding with the spouse has lead them into the company of other men.

So far I   have only written blogs on communication with children and how to steer them correctly but the root is always the marriage.

 In our country marriage is a culmination of two families two sides of relations and a binding irrespective of the bond between the couple, this is followed by children yet again being born in an already compromised marriage. The net result is that either both settle into the
comfort of matrimony where children surpass all the other requirements or it ends up in children having run away from home, getting alcoholic or into drugs or in the world of crime because the parents themselves are still trying to find a foothold, they end up raising children who yet eye marriage or relationships with greyed glasses.

Wrong is the notion of elders who say, that doesn’t matter all will fall in place after a child, I feel everything falls apart, poor kids taking the brunt of it all Again an excellent movie which has divulged deep into the psyche of the want of a human, the need for nurturance of a human. The older version was same of Meena Kumari turning alcoholic for the want of the attention of the husband and we only end
up by summarising …..

MEN ARE POLYGAMOUS BY NATURE……. SO MEN WILL BE MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is it only a woman who has to take the ,mantle in her hand of making a relationship work???? time to ponder…

Women needto take a hold on their life and start living for themselves