Relationships with our children

Suicide by Bollywood actress…..

The news  came as a shock on TV. A young girl with dreams in her eyes and a heart full of love, ending her life so shockingly as she was unable to handle the pressure of  a failed love (as reported by the papers).

This is one  such story which was on air, may be because the person was a celebrity but in reality there are many such adolescents going through many turmoil’s in their lives which they are unable to handle. The next day’s papers told about the girls childhood and how currently she was in a live in relationship.

Without  really beating about the bush I have a question to ask.

Is it that we as parents are lacking some where that we are not able to give the coping skills to our
children that they can handle an adult life without an emotional baggage?

This is only one such example which I have cited with due respect to her soul, as the person who lost her life was a celebrity thus most of us would be aware of it.

Relationships, parenting and friendship are the core areas which my blogs have been related to. A happy child is definitely an outcome of having a stable home with either or both the parents. Stability in not only if the parents are together but also of the parents having respect
for each other, sensitivity , courtesy and trust towards one another.

Let’s do an activity

Just shut your eyes and reflect…. what comes to your mind as a child?

Happiness

Laughter ?                             

Pranks?

Warm cosy home?

or

Hatred because you were looked down upon?

Anger because there was always tension at home.

Shame because as an adolescent you were somehow holding yourself responsible for all misfortunes?

Take a minute and think back about your own relationships with your friends, your parents, your siblings, your spouse and your children if you have children.

If you havea smile on your face after the reflection, my job is almost half done. I say  half done because you now need to reflect on your current relationships.

Does that bring a smile to your face?

BUT

If you open your eyes with a frown or a drop of tear, then you do need to reflect. Not on your childhood but on your present as well.

Why is it that you have a tear or a frown?

What is it that you want from your life and most important is how it that you are going to get it.

I have posted this blog as a mere reflection on our failing relationships esp with our children , I say children because they are the future and it is in our hands to give them a healthy environment for them to blossom into emotionally healthy beings who can not only look after themselves but further raise healthier children.

Facebook is a platform which reaches millions of viewers, hence this is only a small drop in the ocean. Feel free to leave your comments and queries which I shall most willingly try to address.

This blog is  the beginning of the series on relationship issues which will be periodically posted. Do revert as it’s always good to be the change which one wants to see

 

 

 

15 Comments

  1. curs valutar | March 17, 2014

    Pur si simplu perfect. Relationships with our children merita distribuit pe facebook.
    curs valutar

    Reply
  2. Samby | March 2, 2014

    Hi kittu ,just visited your blog. Must say very impressed .though I am new to the concept of blogs , very informative , and assure u will be a regular at reading your page

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    • Deepinder Sekhon | March 5, 2014

      thanks a lot Samby,
      looking forward to you going through my other blogs

      Reply
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  4. RITU BAWA | June 26, 2013

    VERY WELL EXPRESSED.YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT THAT AS PARENTS MOST IF NOT ALL ARE NOT DOING ENOUGHT TO ADDRESS THE EMOTIONAL ISSUES OF CHILDREN WHO HAVE BEEN EXPOSED TO SO MUCH OF PRESENT DAY ENVIRONMENTAL CHANGES.THUS IN ADULTHOOD IT BECOMES DIFFICULT FOR THEM TO COPE UP WITH SITUATIONS.
    YOU RIGHTLY STRESSED THAT IT IS A ONE TIME JOB TO BE RESPONSIBLE TO MAKE THE FOUNDATION OF THESE CHILDREN STRONG ENOUGH FOR THEIR FUTURE.
    WITHIN EACH STILL LIES A VULRENABLE AND AN INNOCENT CHILD(IRRESPECTIVE OF THE AGE) WHICH HAS TO BE CAPTURED AND TRAINED BY PROFESSIONALS LIKE YOU WHICH IS ALSO WHY YOU ARE THERE AND MORE NEEDED TODAY THAT EVER.
    BECAUSE SHE WAS A CELEBRATY,THE NEWS WAS OPEN AND THE PSYCHOLOGICAL ASPECT DISCUSSED AND UNDERSTOOD.
    YOUR ARTICLE WOULD SURELY OPEN THE SHUT EYES OF MANY WHO REALLY ARE IGNORANT OF THIS SUCH IMPORTANT ISSUE.
    I WISH YOU CONTINUE TO BE THE TURNING POINT OF ALL THOSE WHO REALLY NEED YOU.
    WELL DONE AND KEEP THE GREAT WORK GOING.

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  5. Tina | June 26, 2013

    Read the blog……it left me wondering about my own relationship with my own children.
    it is so much similar to my own relationship with my parents.
    I was really shocked to understand that as a child I was at times so fed up with my mother as she was working and I wanted her to be with me always, now I am doing the same with my own daughter. after reading this blog I realised how I was being so unemotional and callous with my own child…
    Thanks…. it did lead me on a path of reflection..

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    • Deepinder Sekhon | June 26, 2013

      Thanks tina…. hope you do find your answers now

      Reply
  6. Amita Bhuwania | June 18, 2013

    Good one ! I have certainly believed that if parents are in sync and totally “in touch ” with their children – such things will not happen.

    Reply

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