Relationships

Just today I saw Sahib Biwi and Gangster returns……..phew, the story teller and director has  really hit the nail right on the head….

In the  previous movie it was the biwi who was the philanderer and the one doing all wrong but then coming to look into the deeper psyche of the human need, it was all for the lack of the attention from the husband which the wife had been yearning for, this lead her to being an alcoholic, someone pining to satisfy her physical needs… phew….

Amazing movie, in the end the scorned wife eventually got the husband using all her
cleverness.

Same in the sequel, I am sure all those who would have seen it must be aware that in the end she managed to put the last nail in the coffin and lead her life in the world of politics, yet eyeing the hunk in the last scene.

The movie really got me thinking that it’s a very vicious cycle of understanding, communication and relationships. This was but a movie, I in my profession have had the opportunity to meet women who for the lack of understanding with the spouse has lead them into the company of other men.

So far I   have only written blogs on communication with children and how to steer them correctly but the root is always the marriage.

 In our country marriage is a culmination of two families two sides of relations and a binding irrespective of the bond between the couple, this is followed by children yet again being born in an already compromised marriage. The net result is that either both settle into the
comfort of matrimony where children surpass all the other requirements or it ends up in children having run away from home, getting alcoholic or into drugs or in the world of crime because the parents themselves are still trying to find a foothold, they end up raising children who yet eye marriage or relationships with greyed glasses.

Wrong is the notion of elders who say, that doesn’t matter all will fall in place after a child, I feel everything falls apart, poor kids taking the brunt of it all Again an excellent movie which has divulged deep into the psyche of the want of a human, the need for nurturance of a human. The older version was same of Meena Kumari turning alcoholic for the want of the attention of the husband and we only end
up by summarising …..

MEN ARE POLYGAMOUS BY NATURE……. SO MEN WILL BE MEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Is it only a woman who has to take the ,mantle in her hand of making a relationship work???? time to ponder…

Women needto take a hold on their life and start living for themselves

42 Comments

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  2. RITU BAWA | June 26, 2013

    A TRUE ANALYSIS OF THE PRESENT DAY RELAITY.SO MUCH IS WRITTEN,MOVIES MADE AND DISCUSSIONS DONE HOWEVER LITTLE WORKS.
    HOWEVER,THERE IS THE OTHER SIDE OF THE COIN TOO.NOT ALWAYS IS IT THE WOMAN TO TAKE THE BRUNT OF IT ALL AS ALSO SHOWN IN DEV D IF ANYONE HAS SEEN IT.
    THE BASIS OF IT ALL IS COMMUNICATION,MUTUAL RESPECT AND BREATHING SPACE WITH OR WITHOUT CHILDREN.
    IS HAS ALWAYS BEEN SEEN THAT NAMED RELATIONSHIPS WORK RATHER RARELY AND WHEN THE REALIZATION COMES ITS TOO LATE AND THEN STARTS THE TURMOIL OF COMPROMISES AND MORE COMPROMISES.
    WHETHER ITS AN ACT OF GOD OR OUR DOING IS TO COMPLICATED TO GET INTO.
    THE BOTTOM LINE IS THAT THE TOMBSTONE OF ANYTHING IN A RELATIONSHIP IS A TWO WAY COMMUNICATION, A FEELING OF BEING WANTED AND NEVER TO BE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.IF THIS IS NOT THERE NOTHING WILL EVER WORK.
    HOWEVER,I FEEL THAT A PERFECT UNDERSTANDING CAN ONLY BE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN AND NEVER BETWEEN TWO OF THE SAME SEX.

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    • Deepinder Sekhon | June 26, 2013

      Thanks Ritu for your view point as it is indeed true that mutual respect , communication and many other factors which are the foundation of any relationships

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  3. ritu | June 16, 2013

    well really truly said , but how many men do actually realise this and do something about it?
    almost none if not very few

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    • Deepinder | June 16, 2013

      Yes Ritu, truly said as most of us don’t realise this.
      Why only men, even women at times don’t realise the importance of their own valuable input as relationships always work two ways and never one ways, but they are so bogged down in their role as a mother or one of the many roles that they forget the woman part in themselves 🙂

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    • Titinho | November 30, 2013

      May 2, 2013 – 2:55 pm Yeesh that’s a tough question! I think I’ve found the balcane for the most part. I always notice when I give more than I take with a person, and like the friendship you mentioned, it’s incredibly draining and I know it’s not sustainable. So I keep my distance until there’s a time that we can have a more equal relationship. But on the other hand I don’t think I take too much either. I don’t surround myself with givers, so the funny thing is love never comes to me when I beg for it, but is willingly given to me when I least expect

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